Ani Ram went from serial-dater to home-maker in less time..
When I tell you about a first date that one of my girlfriends went on, you’re not going to believe it.
She had met – I’ll call him “The Stand Up Guy” – at a speed dating event, and they made plans to go on a “real” date together.
The plan was to meet in downtown NYC for lunch. As with many first dates, the food was the best part.
I’d like to say that this guy broke all the rules, but what he did is not even in the dating rule book.
During the lunch he revealed that along with his full-time job as an MD, he does standup comedy on the side. After lunch, he asked her if she would like to see a comedy show. “Sure” she said, thinking that she too likes standup comedy.
So they walked to where she thought would be a comedy club. When they arrived, he said “I live on the top floor. I can’t wait for you to see it.” Taken aback, she said “I thought we were going to a comedy show?” He said “the show is a video of one of my gigs.”
Some girls will go “upstairs” on a first date, so I don’t see anything wrong with his attempt and her acceptance.
As promised, “The Stand Up Guy” put in a video of one of his standup shows. Here is where his choice of activity for a first date completely blew me away. Like… away away.
Standup comedy is a widely acceptable form of entertainment. Sometimes it offends some. Other times it offends others. Most times, it entertains most. She will never know if all of his routines are of the same caliber, but at least on that tape, the topic was Masturbation. Every joke was centered around his obsession with “jerking,” “stroking,” “poking” and “vaseline,” which apparently he never leaves home without.
On a first date? Really?
I think he was so proud of his comedic talent that he wanted to impress her with it right from the start. Unfortunately, he shared more of his talent than he realized. Or maybe he did realize. What she realized was that he was way too talented for what she was looking for.
I hope at least his audience was more impressed.
My advice? It’s okay to crack jokes on a first date but try to refrain from a show-n-tell with vaseline.
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Well I agree that some first dates will be worse than others. In this case the “stand up guy” is pretty much a loser in the game of common sense. The rule of making jokes on the first date, you have to be some what courteous and /or respectful to the other person. That rule can be bent to a certain degree. Really, when you think about it, there are no rules. Just guide lines.
Anyways, if your the kind of person that has a sick sense of humor, then try with all your will power to tone it down (in person or on video) till that person feels comfortable with you enough to hear spankin’ the monkey jokes because that person may take a longer time than you do to reach that type of comfort level.
Woooooooowwwwwwwwwwww — wonders shall never end…
Wow. I love bad date stories. First dates are so much like interviews, you know everyone is putting on their best face, the interesting part is what they think their best face is! I think you should give people a second chance, who knows what they’re thinking on their first date. Impress her, pretend your not interested, how nervous they are when they’re out with you…. Then again, I might just be dating the inexperienced
wow…what a weirdo and creep!!
Well, this guy is not a winner. I don’t understand why guys think this is OK? Sexual innuendos are always a hit or miss with a stranger , so I’d say stay away from it.