Ani Ram went from serial-dater to home-maker in less time..
Too many times I’ve heard women asking the question “Does he still like me?” It seems like many women fear that their men have stopped caring about them. There are two main concerns associated with this fear:
“Did I say something wrong?” and “Did I do something wrong?”
I am here to answer these questions once and for all. The answer is obvious, yet it is difficult to accept. If it were simple, women would have regained their confidence and dropped their fears a long time ago. If you are in a relationship, here’s what you need to remember every time you find yourself wondering if your man still “likes” you:
IF HE DIDN’T LIKE YOU, HE’D JUST BREAK UP WITH YOU!
Repeat this to yourself over and over again. Don’t let your paranoia get a hold of you. Your paranoia probably has more to do with your own insecurities than with your partner or your relationship.
Sure, there are plenty of things you can do or say that will make a man uninterested in you. This typically happens at the beginning stage of a relationship when both people are getting to know each other, and each is evaluating the other as a mate. Anything you do at this stage can make the other person question their feelings towards you. If you find yourself wondering if a man is interested in you during the beginning stage of your relationship, read this post I wrote a while ago: “If you think he doesn’t like you, then he doesn’t like you.”
After the beginning stage, once the mutual feelings have been established, it becomes much more difficult to sway them. Usually, no one thing can make someone change how they feel about another person. If a man cares about you then he will care about you even if you do something he doesn’t like. He will care about you if you say something he doesn’t agree with. “Does he still like me?” should not be a concern once you’ve passed the beginning stage of your relationship.
IF HE DIDN’T LIKE YOU, HE’D JUST BREAK UP WITH YOU!
I just wanted to say this again.
Just think about what you would do if one day you realized that you no longer cared for your partner. Wouldn’t you just break up with him? Wouldn’t that be a logical reaction to your feelings? Men, who tend to be much more logical then women, would surely take this course of action.
If your man is in a relationship with you, then he wants to be in a relationship with you. If he wants to be in a relationship with you, then he likes you. He might even love you. Men are very predictable that way. No reason to wonder about his feelings. His actions say it all
Unfortunately, a man will stay in a relationship for a very long time on the basis of liking his partner. This does not mean that his long term goal is to spend the rest of his life with that partner.
What you should be wondering is if the man you are with is as serious about you as you are about him. This is much more important than wondering if he cares about you. I assure you that if he’s with you, then he cares about you.
Are his long term goals the same as yours? Now that’s a legitimate concern. THAT is the question you should be asking!
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what if he’s too much of a coward to break up with you? my ex just did really dumb passive aggressive stuff until i gave up. what a disaster