Ani Ram went from serial-dater to home-maker in less time..
This weekend my husband and I went where no conversation should have gone. It started as a discussion about having kids. Having kids makes me think about getting older. Getting older and having kids makes me think about gaining weight. I come to find out that these topics make my husband also think about gaining weight – my weight!
The dreaded realization of a married woman:
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Me: It’s going to be great having a baby. I just better get in shape first so that I don’t gain too much weight afterwards.
Him: Who cares? I’ll still love you! And let’s face it you are going to gain weight sooner or later.
Me: Well I hope I don’t gain too much. I’d like to stay in shape as I get older.
Him: But look at your mom, she’s overweight, so chances are you’re going to look like her when you are her age.
Me: WHAT? I don’t want to look like my mom! Plus I’m shaped differently anyway. I’m not going to look like her.
Him: I won’t care if you do, I’ll still love you.
Me: But will you find me attractive?
Him: I’m going to think you’re cute no matter what.
Me: But will you think I’m hot?
Him: Will I think you’re hot? I don’t know. But I’ll definitely think you’re cute!
Me: What’s the weather supposed to be like tomorrow?
Oh NO! That was a big “NO”! He answered my question with a question to give himself time to formulate an answer and then he never answered my question. That was a “no”! My husband will not think I’m hot if I gain weight! I was never supposed to know that and I hate myself for asking the question.
Of course I couldn’t get mad at him for being honest. I wasn’t mad. Men are very honest and usually don’t filter their thoughts before spitting them out. That is why I always advise women to not ask questions to which they can’t handle all of the possible answers. What I did here was a classic mistake. I never should’ve asked all those questions. I think a part of me wanted a dose of motivation to get myself to the gym. What I got was a dose of reality.
One thing that women should always remember is to never put negative thoughts into their men’s minds. There should never be a question of whether or not he is attracted to you. Even if such insecure thoughts enter your mind they should never be vocalized. Of course, he is attracted to you. Of course, he will always find you attractive. Your attitude should always exude confidence and never insecurity. If you convince yourself that he has a million reasons to be attracted to you then you can convince him of the same. Don’t ever ask him how attractive you are; always tell him how attractive you are.
We are now talking about having kids (we used to talk about hating kids) and this always makes me think about how our lives will drastically change and never return to the way they are today. Then I think about our economy and realize that our lives will drastically change whether we have kids or not. Society changes our lives; our lives change who we are; we adjust to fit in; and then, in the end, everything calibrates- including the scale.
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lol, yeah, we have to be hot moms, dude.
that’s why i go to the gym everyday to get in the habit!
get ur butt on the treadmill and become a hot mom!!
p.s. – u better exercise while ur pregnant, too. pregnant ladies in the gym are cool.
oh yeah, i love ur clip art, by the way. always so appropriate to the post. where do you get them?