Ani Ram went from serial-dater to home-maker in less time..
Lately I’ve been trying to concentrate on my own self improvement. I’ve been reading about breaking bad habits, quitting addictions, and overall improvement of character.
My current effort is to eat more proper. It was a few months into my relationship that my boyfriend pointed out that “I eat funny.” It was very hard for me to understand that there is anything wrong with the way I eat. He was sure to point it out and I finally realized that, to him, I was bringing my head too close to my food. This was especially obvious, to him, when I ate pasta.
Right away, I thought to myself that I should keep my head up more and that this would be no big deal to fix. I appreciated that he told me, although it made me self-conscious every time I ate. I even asked my mom to correct me, but she said she didn’t notice that I was doing anything wrong.
A few weeks ago, I was having lunch with my co-workers, and one of them ordered something with a lot of sauce. He must have felt awkward eating his meal because he said “I know you’re supposed to bring your food to your mouth and not your mouth to your food, but I can’t help it with all this sauce!” All of a sudden, a light went on in my head. It became very clear that this was exactly the way I would ‘normally’ eat!
I was paranoid at first that the reason my co-worker said this was to make fun of the way I eat. I’m still not sure why it came out but I hope it wasn’t a remark to the way I was eating, too. In any case, that sentence kept playing and replaying in my head. I felt so much relief. All this time, I knew that I kept my head low, but I didn’t know how to fix this. And now, like a little kid, I realized that I needed to practice keeping my head straight and bringing the food to my mouth.
I must sound really crazy right now, I know. The reason I’m bringing this up is to illustrate how men will notice things even when we think they won’t. I later remembered that the only other person who has ever made fun of the way I eat was my ex-boyfriend. He used to tell me that I look ‘shady’ when I eat as if I am trying to hide my food so no one steal it from me. I guess he had this impression because I kept my head real low to my food all the time.
Last week, I was reading about common deal breakers that men might have toward women, and one example was ‘eating’. So ladies, when you are out on a date with a guy, remember: Just because he might look sloppy when he eats, you should always look really proper! They notice.
I am happy to say that I’ve been eating much better. At first it was weird keeping my head up and bringing food to my mouth. I had to keep looking at my fork/ spoon because I wasn’t aware of where my mouth was. Before, my mouth always went for my food, I didn’t have to aim. Now I had to aim my at my mouth. The control needs to be in my hand. It took a couple of weeks getting used to his. But now, even my mom notices a change. Once I pointed out what the problem was, she couldn’t believe she never noticed before!
I will be doing a lot more blogs on self improvement. For now, just remember, men really do notice!
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wow…
does ur food taste better now that it has to travel further?
haha! this is cute, have u stuck to your new food eating ways??
pasta is hard — especially spaghetti :-/