It occurred to me recently that I needed to share my views about online dating with you. What good is online dating advice without online dating? This isn’t just a topic for me. It’s an experience. Here’s another secret: that’s how I met my husband.

It wasn’t that long ago that no one would ever admit that they were on a dating website. Online dating was for people who couldn’t meet someone in person. It was for people who were hiding

Valentine’s day is just around the corner. Commercials and advertisements are on perpetual re-run, on every media channel, telling men to “buy her this,” “send her that,” “indulge her with this,” and “surprise her with that.” With the multitude of programs out there to help men prepare for this holiday, and be ready to surprise her with some sort of gift on hand, I can’t help but notice so many women around me wondering, asking each other, and scrounging for ideas about, what to get HIM this Valentine’s Day.

Building a functional relationship is one of the most difficult challenges that men and women may ever have to face in their lives.  It’s also one of the only challenges that requires full collaboration by both parties.  Going to school, meeting your goals at work, and taking up a hobby are all individual tasks that you could accomplish alone, whether married or single.  Having a functional relationship is not an individual task.  

The more I talk to women who are actively dating, in relationships, or even married,

This weekend my husband and I went where no conversation should have gone. It started as a discussion about having kids. Having kids makes me think about getting older. Getting older and having kids makes me think about gaining weight. I come to find out that these topics make my husband also think about gaining weight – my weight!

Dating is a lot like shopping, and if you don’t make up a list of what you need ahead of time, you’ll probably end up coming home with the wrong item.

I had this epiphany while searching for my mate. If you are ready to get married and you are dating with this purpose in mind then you need to stay focused. The goal is to optimize your search time. This is something I learned early on- the more time you spend with the wrong person the more time it will take you to

This secret applies to many facets of life… including your relationship!

One way to get your man to help you or to do what you want is to flatter him and shower him with compliments. This gives him confidence and makes him feel like he can do anything. Many women tend to put their men down in an effort to get them to do something. This simply doesn’t work. The secret lies in your delivery.

Does he like me? Is he going to call tonight? When will we hang out next? Did I do something wrong? Maybe I shouldn’t have said that? What is he doing this weekend? Is he with someone else?

We’ve all asked ourselves these stupid fucking questions (SFQ). We’ve all sat around for hours stressing over all the possible answers. Here is what I think about that: STOP! STOP! STOP!

I spoke to a girlfriend of mine who just ended a short-term relationship and I had a very basic revelation. Guys who are single go out to clubs, go partying, or drink socially in any capacity. Guys who are in relationships and want to get serious in those relationships have no reason to and are usually relieved that they don’t have to go out like that anymore.

I went for my weekly manicure a few months ago and had very non-manicure small talk with my manicure lady. I will call her the Nail Lady. I should start off by telling you that I have been getting my nails done by the same woman every week for the past 10 years. You could definitely say that we know each other pretty well, and she would tell you that she watched me grow up and is kind of a mother figure of sorts for me. She is a wonderful lady in her late fifties, got married as a virgin to her fist love, has three kids, and imigrated here from

My husband and I recently started taking our dog to puppy school. We enrolled her in a 7 week course called Basic Obedience. This class has been a lifesaver. We have learned to understand her behavior and the best way to communicate with her.

Before taking the class we had made completely wrong interpretations of why she would or would not do certain