“John,” my husband’s colleague, a 40 year old divorcee with 3 kids, was asking my husband if I had any single girlfriends for him. My husband told him that I had plenty of single girlfriends (true) who would love to go out with him (false). So last time John stopped by our place they approached me for referrals.

Hello my dear readers and sorry about the long hiatus! The last twelve months have been a bit busy as my husband and I welcomed our first baby (girl). Unfortunately, blogging had to take a backseat to puking, heartburn, bloating, stretch marks, mood swings, back pain, shopping, nesting, and laboring, which then led to baby-shit, baby-puke, baby-up-all-night! But I’m back and I have a new category to write about!

A while ago, I wrote the post Just Because You Sleep There, Doesn’t Mean You Live There!
 
Now, an even more important fact:  Just because you sleep there, that doesn’t make you his wife!
 
Women everywhere are in dead-end relationships.  Meaning, they are in relationships that will never lead to the ultimate next step – marriage. 

When I tell you about a first date that one of my girlfriends went on, you’re not going to believe it.

She had met – I’ll call him “The Stand Up Guy” – at a speed dating event, and they made plans to go on a “real” date together.

The plan was to meet in downtown NYC for lunch. As with many first dates, the food was the best part.

I came home and noticed there was a box outside the front door.  I was pretty sure that it couldn’t have been anything for me, so I left it for my husband.   

My husband came home, saw the box, brought it inside and began to open it with much joy.   “Hmm” I thought, “what’s in the box?” I also thought, “maybe he got me a present?” 

Speaking with a male coworker the other day gave me another male perspective on relationships. 

We were talking about living the married life and, with no hesitation, he made a statement that was just as obvious as it was disturbing.  Like many men before him, he said that “the woman has to always be right.”  I’ve heard this comment before.  People say it with sarcasm at weddings, at family get-togethers, and

Living with my husband for almost two years now has made one thing clear: there are two points of view to everything! What a wake-up call.

Growing up, you realize that your opinion differ from your parents’. Once you are a grown up, you realize that your opinions differ from your friends’. You might ask for advice from time to time but it’s always you who decides what’s right.

Hi Ani Ram,
I have been reading your blog for about six months now and I really enjoy it. I almost always agree with the advice you give and I think you are very rationale and see both sides (male and female) well.

I’m going to be 28 in August and my boyfriend just turned

The more I search for dating and relationship advice, the more I notice a recurring theme in advice articles for women.  Whether it’s relationship experts or random opinion-givers, everyone is encouraging women to reclaim their independence.   I am convinced that this is one of the main reasons so many women are single and are having a hard time getting into serious relationships.

This kind of modern day thinking has planted the seed of fear in women. The fear of

One of the best ways to find out what men like and dislike about women is to hear that from men themselves. That’s why I often frequent the site askmen.com. It has a section called “Dating & Sex” that contains articles and advice about dealing with women, for men and by men. And getting the inside scoop on “man-talk” is extremely useful for a girl. I think of this as keeping current on what’s in on Man Street.